The Friend I Wasn't Supposed to Have

Been watching the TV show Chuck lately. It's about Spies and what not, great show, I recommend it. All spies have a lock box, which is similar to a will. The life they live is one where they could die any second so the lock box contains memories and things they would like those they care about to know. I'm not a spy for public purposes, however I would like to document this event in my life for people to read or stumble upon.




A while back I was attending UCSD, I had already decided that the school couldn't give me what I was looking for. I decided to transfer away to CSU San Marcos, it cost less, they had the Major I wanted to go into, and maybe just maybe there I would find the college atmosphere and friends I was looking for. (Since transferring to CSUSM, i have met the greatest friends in the world)

When talking to people as a high schooler, everyone seemed to say how college was the greatest thing. How you would find so many friends and great relationships... My 2 years at UCSD showed anything BUT that. I didn't help out my cause being a commuter but I stayed on campus a fair amount. I lived in the gym, played basketball, even made a good amount of spending cash challenging cocky college kids to one on one. Anything to keep me entertained. At the end of the day though, I never really met anyone that was going to change my life as a friend....

I tried though..

In my last year there I took a Public Speaking Class, something I happen to be very comfortable with today. Unlike my other classes this one had a total of about 15 students. It also had a total of 1 blue eyed girl who, at the time, happened to be the tick of my life. There she was cute, quiet, and at first thought nice. But boy was I wrong.

There I was in a last stand effort to make a friend or two. Trying to salvage my time at this most prestigious college. All I got though was a girl who I couldn't figure out, and one who seemed to always give me the biggest metaphorical slaps in the face when we spoke. Bottom line, I spend all quarter trying to become friends with this girl, and what started as the polite shy me being denied by the wolf in sheep's clothing, turned into two egos shamelessly butting heads.

Quarter ended, I gave some riveting speeches and charmed the class. Excuse me, charmed most of the class. But I left without affecting this one stupid, annoying, beautiful, pivotal, wonderfully trouble-making girl.



So the years went on, a good 4 of them. Each year I remembered her birthday from a conversation we had. Every now and then I would try and contact her to see if she wanted to spend some time, every time I would get denied. Never got a reason. Really had no reason to stick at it. But I did. I never once thought about giving it up.

So one more try, maybe my last try. I had tickets to go see a Laker Game. So I asked her if she was interested in going since it had been a while.
The response I got: " You do know I have a boyfriend"
Same girl.... same assuming, labeling, pre-judging girl.. thinking that I was up to something.

TIMEOUT

Let's be real, I do think this girl is pretty as can be.
Let's be realer, I am not the guy to override the power of friendship with making relationship moves.

TIME IN

Here we go again, the same denial, the same routine. But wait.. this time she said one more thing. She said maybe we could hang out another time... and she insisted that I take someone else to the game. So that's what I did and we planned a date in the future to see each other.


I almost expected to get attacked or set up as I was driving to this coffee place to meet this girl. But I didn't. We turned " I can only hang out for 1:30 hours" into about 4 hours. There I was walking her out of the shop, with the strangest feeling. I felt like maybe, just maybe she liked having me around. That wasn't possible though, how could this girl want to be my friend after so many incidents of catastrophe and pure unadulterated denial? Sometimes its best to not ask questions because we kept in touch, and still hang out to this day.


There you have it. That mischievous, button pushing, malevolent blue eyed girl turned into this free spirited, innovative, caring, compassionate, still mischievous friend.

It is by far the oddest relationship I have, the oddest feeling overcomes me around her, but She really has become one of my greatest friends. I absolutely love it. I guess I got lucky for being foolish enough to be persistent. At the end of the day, looking back on it all I can now confidently say that my time at UCSD wasn't wasted after all.

"Don't know what tomorrow brings"

-ThaTKy
T.K.O.